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| | | Hi John! Do you ever invent connections in your head? Or convince yourself that a relationship is better than it actually is? Same. In this week's email: βCartoon: Where's Wally? π©βπ¦
Dad Jokes: First dates things ποΈ
Video: Not a video...? π
Post: A video...? π
Original: For the love of dogs πΆ |
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| | | | | | | | WHERE'S THE MAN
I have many friends who are single moms. Or they go to church with their kids without their husbands.
Or...
Does it even matter?
Here's a mom surrounded by suspicion and curiosity rather than compassion and care.
Let's love uncautiously!
Any moms out there experience this? This cartoon is available for digital download here. |
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| | | | | | | | My wife asked me, βWhy donβt you treat me like you did when we were first dating?β So I took her to dinner and a movie then dropped her off at her parents' house. |
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To say thank you, I'll be making one of my deconstruction courses FREE on YouTube this Monday. You can click the bell on my channel to get notified. |
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| | | | | | | | | | | | I painted βNo Goodbye Is Good Enoughβ. It sold right away. The story behind it: My daughter's boyfriend had a dog. Bowser. I've known the Bowz for more than four years. He was a really good boy. He got very sick recently. The decision was made to put him down and end his suffering. We had one more evening with him. Gave him every treat he ever loved. Then we said goodbye. But it just didn't seem sufficient. No goodbye is good enough. It was popular so Iβve made prints here. BUTβ¦ if you want a painting that commemorates a loss like this, fill this out and I'll paint it for you. |
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| | | | ZERO CONNECTION, A THOUSAND FEELS |
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| | Well, I returned home from staying with my mom. I have to be completely honest with you here. And it might hurt. I felt this expectation from some people that I βshouldβ go see my dad and make a connection with him. That somehow it was my responsibility to make a relationship happen with him. I visited my dad four times. He is completely somewhere else in his mind, doing actions with his arms and hands. And there was no connection. Zero. Then I realized while I was visiting him one day: there never has been a connection. Never an emotional one. I mean a good emotional connection. Like a bonding, affectionate one. I refuse to pretend there ever was one. I now also refuse to pretend I can form one. There never was a warm, emotional connection. There never will be. My responsibility is like the Nothing Special quote belowβ¦ to accept what actually is. Let go of the fantasy and appreciate what actually is. But I had to do the same thing with another relationship while I was there. I had to realize that there never was a warm emotional connection. Iβd actually employed magical thinking to imagine there was one. To pretend there was one. When there never ever was. Lisa pointed that out. I appreciate her so much for that. But it put me to work. My own emotional work. Likeβ¦ why do I do that? Is it that Iβm so desperate to be loved and feel loved that I imagine I am loved by people who donβt? Do I fantasize and pretend there is a love there in hopes that it will materialize in time? Especially from those who βshouldβ love me? I really do think that this thread that runs through my life has gotten me in trouble before. Like in the church. I always fantasized and pretended that such-and-such a spiritual leader loved me because he βshouldβ. Instead, I let myself get spiritually abused. Until I realized, finally, what was really happening. On the surface, this sounds sad. But really, again like the Zen quote below, letting go of the magical thinking and fantasies actually releases you from a terrible trap in order to actually enjoy what actually is. I can finally say that that person doesnβt love me, so quit pretending they do and move on. Move on. Let it go. Release it. Be free. And move on! Do you need to move on from a magical-thinking relationship? Do you understand what Iβm talking about? |
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| | | | | | This quote is from a very good book that is reminding me of the urgency of abandoning my fantasies about what my father should be. What my family should be. What life should be... βLiving Zen means reversing our flight from nothingness, opening to the emptiness of here and now. Slowly, painfully, we reconcile to life. The heart sinks; hope dies. βThings are always just as they are,β observes Joko. This empty tautology is no counsel of despair, however, but can invitation to joy. Dying to ego-dreams, no longer straining for effect, we return to a simple mind. In the garden of everyday experience, we uncover unexpected treasures. Ingenuous, living from what we are, we move from a self-centred toward a reality-centred lifeβ and open to wonder. Abandoning magical thought, awakening to the magic of this moment, we realize in dynamic emptiness the grace of nothing specialβ¦ living Zen.β Charlotte Joke Beck, with Steve Smith, Nothing Special. |
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| | | | | | Thank you for all of your supportive messages about my visit home. I can see that many of you can relate to my 'daddy-issues'. Much love, my friends! David P.S. Don't forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel so you didn't miss Monday's FREE course upload.
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