This Love Month Learn To Accept Yourself First!
"You are good for nothing" This rings a bell. Doesnt it? Be it the voice of your parents, teachers, friends, family members, spouse, boss or colleagues. This voice becomes the voice of the critic sitting inside our head and then begins the self-sabotaging saga. From a creative space and dreamer state we suddenly become somebody who wants to prove something to the world. Instead of self-evaluation we start seeking external validations. Life becomes a challenge in place of a beautiful journey. We start creating the perfection protocol and if someone doesnt fit in we stereotype him/ her as imperfect and not good enough. The irony is we dont even spare ourselves. The process of self-improvement frequently has a destructive impact mentally and emotionally. Your mind creates a picture of another you and determines what you are not and what you should be. The voice in your head creates a conclusion, you end up feeling dreadful as if you are a loser for not having met the image. All this and more since you dont meet the conceptual picture you fabricated in the head, a picture which isnt even real. Weight reduction is motivated by the conclusion in which the own body is not acceptable the way it is. The more powerful the bodys rejection, the more powerful your commitment. Slimming down seems to be the way into alleviating yourself from the self-rejection that is unhappy. The problem is the body isnt causing the unhappiness. The self-rejection dynamic is going on in the mind. The rejection from the voice in our mind is painful motivation and is coupled to pain. Remember humans have a tendency to avoid pain, so this painful motivation doesnt go a long way leading to breakdowns. As an alternative some people engage into repressing the emotion that is disagreeable. Consequently, you get no results at all. Any time you set goals for making changes, including, financial, career, emotional, spiritual, and relationships, the pain of denial will drive us into focusing our attention on something else. So long as we allow the voice in our mind to direct our self-improvement were a slave to criticism. Read More | 