We've learned a lot from those many years of shared experiences: that life can be complicated, full of unexpected treasures and bountiful gifts; that change is the only constant and transition is always a given. Now we're each on a new journey. Although illness has affected our lives, it does not define us. We both realize that this is a time for new beginnings. So we've changed course and taken to heart what we've been telling you for years - nourish yourself, change what you can and accept what you cannot, tolerate uncertainty, accept support, follow your passion, embrace family and friends.

 

Letting go is universal - it's a process we all replay, rediscover, re-invent many times in our lives. Through this organic practice we may relinquish dreams, regrets, self-doubt, stress, fears, memories or guilt. If we have the strength to dig deep, we can also surrender emotional baggage, insecurities, resentments, old family scripts and beliefs that no longer serve us.

What makes it particularly hard for women to let go? We're hard wired to connect and we operate from an emotional perspective. Socialized to have relationships, stepping back seems like a loss and necessitates a role change. For all of us it's difficult to shift attitudes, boundaries or perspective and face the unknown. And here we are, trying to do it again.

 

We know it's important to take one step at a time - a small effort can put change in motion. It may not be easy, but we do have the resources to create a calmer inner space. Instead of focusing on the past or the future, we can stay in the present moment and commit to less stress and more self-compassion.

 

We have a choice in how we feel and in what we do. Although we can't change what happens to us, we can choose how we handle it. What are you holding on to that's keeping you stuck? What joy might you be missing today while worrying about what may never come to be? With strong resolve and the right support you can accept your reality just as it is.

 

Once you do, try to live your own mind/body connection. Take deep breaths as you develop a yoga or meditation practice. Schedule a mental health day and curl up with the book that's been sitting by your bedside for months. Or reserve that longed-for trip with the money you've saved for a rainy day.

 

We want you to know how thankful we are for your loyalty over the years. Whether you've shared comments or posted guest blogs, read Whose Couch Is It Anyway? or written book reviews, we appreciate all you've done. This is our last newsletter but we're not going anywhere. Our website, www.HerMentorCenter.com, will remain online with access to the many resources and articles we've published over the years.

 

We hope you'll pursue experiences that bring you comfort and people who make you laugh. Find new purpose as you expand your life. Move forward in the best way you know. Let it all sink in as you reap the rewards of being true to yourself - and celebrate the beauty of right now.

With gratitude,

 

Phyllis and Rosemary