Rethinking Complaining | by Madisyn Taylor We all know someone who has elevated the process of complaining to a high art. Sometimes funny, sometimes exhausting, these people have the ability to find a problem just about anywhere. In its more evolved form, complaining is simply the ability to see what's not working, in one's own life or in the external world, and it can be quite useful if followed to its natural conclusion--finding a solution and applying it. However, many of us don't get that far, and we find that complaining has become an end in itself. In small doses, this is not a big problem, but if complaining has become a huge part of our identities, it may be time to take a good look at how we are spending our energy. Complaining is a person's way of acknowledging that they are not happy with the way things are. In a metaphorical way, when we complain or criticize, we are tearing down an undesirable structure in order to make room for something new. But if all we do is tear down, never bothering to summon the creative energy required to create something new, we are not fulfilling the process. In fact, we are at risk for becoming a stagnant and destructive force in our own lives and in the lives of the people we love. Another issue with complaining is that we sometimes tend to focus on other people, whom we can't change, as a way of deflecting attention from the one person we can change--ourselves. So transforming complaining into something useful is a twofold process that begins with turning our critical eye to look at things we can actually do something about, and then taking positive action. When we find ourselves complaining, the last thing we need to do is get down on ourselves. Instead, we can begin by noticing that we are in the mode of wanting to make some changes. But rather than lashing out at somebody or an organization, we can look for an appropriate place to channel this energy--not our neighbor's house, but possibly parts of our own. Finally, we can ask ourselves the positive question of what we would like to create in the place of whatever it is we want to tear down. When we do this, we channel a negative habit into a creative process, thus using our energy to change the world around us in a positive way. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Ana Holub Do you want to know more about A Course in Miracles? You know Oprah loves it. You often see quotes from it. Perhaps you've studied it a bit yourself. Have you wondered what the message of the Course is for you? A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is a very long book. It's thick, and many people are put off by it because it can seem intimidating. Yet millions of people have studied it since it was first published in the mid 1970s. Why? Because it contains a lot of profound truth that changes people's lives. This course explains the wisdom of A Course in Miracles in a simple, understandable way, to help you grasp what the Course in Miracles is all about. It will illuminate some of the innumerable teachings from the Course, and will explain how to live a life full of miracles. Reading the book is not required for this course. You can take it on it's own, and then see if you want to buy your own copy of the book. If you already have! A Course in Miracles or want to read on-line, the chapter and sub-chapter will be cited so you can easily find the quotes that have been chosen. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 2. 21 Day Goddess Workout 3. 8 Week Whole Body Makeover! 4. How to Communicate Like a Buddhist 5. Intimacy Without Responsibility 6. The Ultimate 7 Day Cleanse 7. Be a Divine Conduit for Guides & Angels 8. 21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals 9. Shifting from Fear to Love 10. Find True Love in 27 Days
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