| The Narcissist Feels Separate Excerpt from The One Truth To understand The One Truth at a deeper level, it’s helpful to see how it applies to our lives at a practical level. Once you see how oneness and separateness, inside to outside, knowing to searching, and positive to negative impacts you, your team, your relationships, and every aspect of your life, you won’t be able to unsee it. It will be a new lens for you to see the world and how you and others interact with it. As I share a number of common topics, scenarios, and issues that are part of our everyday life experience, through The One Truth lens, my goal is that you’ll realize what’s happening at a deeper level, within yourself and others, and with this knowledge and understanding you will live more powerfully in this world. One of the topics that helps us understand The One Truth is narcissism. Psychology considers narcissism a psychological condition called narcissistic personality disorder, which usually arises because of emotional injury and trauma from shame, loss, deprivation, and painful experiences in childhood. Research and brain scans show that the narcissist’s brain actually blocks off parts to protect itself based on traumatic experiences and painful memories. The brain literally creates separation and division at the neurological level, which I believe, is a manifestation of the separation that a narcissist experiences. At a deeper level, the narcissist has moved from oneness to separateness. They feel separate, isolated, and alone so they focus solely on protecting their separate self and only care about themself, not others. They lack empathy and concern for how their words or behavior affects others. It’s why narcissists make horrible leaders. As Maya Angelou said, “You can’t be much of a leader if all you see is yourself. A leader sees greatness in others.” Not surprisingly, narcissism is also associated with a big, fragile ego that doesn’t handle criticism well, constantly seeking praise and admiration from others, and swallowing people’s energy like a black hole while also experiencing frequent depression and anxiety. As I explain more in the book, the more a person feels separate, the more they will struggle with a variety of mental health conditions. When you understand how oneness and separateness affect the brain and thoughts, and how the brain and thoughts interact, it will make a lot of sense. If we can get a narcissist to return to oneness and see themself as part of a bigger whole, they would feel more whole themself. If we can help them heal the trauma of the past and know they are loved, they would be able to heal their soul and brain in the process. Like the soul, the brain heals through connection, and this connection leads to restoration. If you want a deeper understanding of the practices and principles outlined in The One Truth before anyone else, join the launch team to read the book a month before it releases. You will also gain access to the private launch team Facebook group as well as additional free resources to enhance your understanding of The One Truth. -Jon |
