Have you learned to not feel guilty about the boundaries you’ve set?
Have you learned to not feel guilty for feeling your feels?
Have you learned to not feel guilty for being you?
If not, why not?
Something I’ve learned over the years is that if we are given a safe space to be our genuine and authentic selves, we will be.
It’s the systemic oppressions and expectations of organizations and individuals and groups and societies that provoke fear in us to make us conform, comply, and cooperate with them all so that we can belong.
Our most ancient ancestors would banish the uncooperative into the desert or wilderness or execution in order to maintain control and order.
Now, even though we aren’t necessarily physically banished as much (although sometimes we are), we are most definitely socially banished.
Social death is the new physical death.
So we hide our most authentic selves to survive.
I just realized in the past two weeks that even though I thought I was living outside this box of control, I still subject myself to certain limits in order to survive. Even though I am marginalized because of who I am, what I think, what I say, and what I do, the margins are still a part of the circle.
It will take courage to take the next step.
So, I ask again:
Do you feel guilty about the boundaries you’ve set?
Do you feel guilty for feeling your feels?
Do you feel guilty for being you?
Let’s drop this guilt together! | 
