Speaking as someone who just pulled a red pepper out of my bag while searching for my diary, the current acceptance – and even coolness – of an overstuffed bag comes as a relief. The bag that is so full that items spill out, like a doner kebab, has become this season’s styling trick, as the French tuck or popped collar once were.

At Miu Miu the bags were open and overflowing with shoes, most obviously – high heels clamped over the edges. Miuccia Prada explained her thinking in the show notes: it was an “embracing of unique characters” and “the joy of life”. The big bags that were trotted down the Bottega Veneta catwalk came with rolled up newspapers poking out of them. At Balenciaga, bags looked a little emptier but had chains of keys and cards dripping off them like tinsel.

Jane Birkin was pioneer of the vibe. The late actor, who gave her name to the legendary and most lusted after bag of recent history, the Hermès Birkin, used to stuff hers so full that the handles became unusable, leaving her to carry it round like a rugby ball waiting to be touched down. On TikTok there is even a movement teaching others how to Birk-ify your bag. Model Irina Shayk provided some recent inspiration by carrying her dog around in hers.

These gargantuan, rammed receptacles are a welcome change to the recent trend for tiny bags, from those the size of a debit card – practical only for those who can afford to float rather than schlep through their days – to the trend’s inevitably daft endgame: the “Microscopic Handbag” that measured 0.03 inches. They are a styling trick adjacent to the penchant for visibly done-in but nevertheless very fancy handbags.

In the real world, overstuffed bags are not a styling detail but a byproduct of a regular life. Most people’s homes are small and one’s daily needs are big – bags need to be part storage, part fridge and part safety deposit box. So does fashion’s focus on the big bag lend a certain gloss to the everyday?

“I think we are back to embracing reality and moving throughout the world realistically,” says fashion writer Liana Satenstein, who recently explored the topic on her newsletter, when she moved from her “big hulking bag era while working in an office” to carrying a debit card when going freelance. “There is a physical and psychological lightness that comes with a small bag,” she wrote.

When Lauren Friedman, who has written extensively about the feminist history of the handbag, first saw the trend she immediately thought: “‘Oh, so we’re all just carrying more of our literal baggage now?’” In her work she makes the connection between the history of a handbag and that of women’s rights. “The metaphor between purses and female anatomy is well documented; so to me, what this trend of a large carry-all bag says is that societal culture at large, which dictates these trends, wants self-identified women to carry the weight of it all, out in the open, all at once.” She is speaking from the US where, she says, “we really are carrying so much more in so many different ways”, pointing to the abortion rights conversation.

The bag and its relationship to how we carry things is directly about class and gender. “There’s a pretty interesting correlation between how carrying objects translates to how society sees you.” She points to Roman times: “If you didn’t carry anything, it meant you were rich enough to have other people carry your stuff for you.” The through-line to the tiny handbags of recent times is impossible not to notice.

The overstuffed bag recalls the “frazzled Englishwoman” aesthetic that is harrying its way through the zeitgeist, a 00s-inspired trope represented by Bridget Jones at her most disarrayed. That a more realistic version of womanhood is being celebrated is, in one sense, a gain. Friedman appreciates how it romanticises “a female persona that is not this manic pixie dream girl – she’s not the perfect girl, she has flaws, she has a messy handbag and might be disorganised.”

The optics of an overstuffed bag carried by a man would, I venture, read very differently. Friedman, for all her expertise, proves the potency of our deeply conditioned brains: “What comes to mind immediately is a trim finance guy on his way to the gym or an artist carrying his wares to the studio.”

So as with all things, the overstuffed bag is many things. It is an easy styling trick if you want to signal that you know your Bottega Veneta from your Brunello Cucinelli. It is yet another example of high fashion glorifying and glamourising the every day. And it is many people’s lived reality.

While Friedman likes to leave home without too much baggage – “it’s freeing,” she says. “You’re literally not saddled down.” Satenstein, meanwhile, is “back on the big bag train” and says that going into hers is “like pulling a rabbit out of a magic hat; the abyss of stuff; a black hole of things”. As she concedes: “Ultimately the XXL bag is our truth and what women need to function within this world daily.”

What’s hot – and what’s most definitely not – this week

Going up

Gen-blend relationships | According to the dating app Bumble, 59% of women are open to dating someone younger than them.

Holiday presets | Mentally and physically prepping for the festive season by incorporating breath work, early nights and quitting caffeine.

Bergdorf blonde | A specific expensive-looking hair colour that you can’t buy in a bottle. See Sarah Jessica Parker and Hillary Clinton.

Going down

Old news | Lil’ Kim claims that pre-orders of her memoir have surpassed those of the Bible. That’s about 55,000 copies a day.

iCalendar | Gen Z and young millennials are buying up bound datebooks to keep track of appointments.

Big makeup bags | Pocket-sized contouring sticks, lip glosses and highlighters means the day of the giant cosmetic bag are numbered.

Chloe Mac Donnell, deputy fashion and lifestyle editor, solves your wardrobe dilemmas

Q: What’s the winter equivalent of jeans and a nice top? I can’t face wearing something sequined or with cut-outs to a festive lunch. – Sarah, Glasgow

A: Get yourself a party cardi. Choose one with a bit of pizzazz. It’s all about the little details. Embellished buttons, puff sleeves or an interesting print instantly promotes a humble cardigan from base layer to main talking point. A soft knit contrasts well with a hardier fabric such as denim so don’t ditch your fave jeans.

I like Boden’s fluffy mohair knit, with its pretty sparkly buttons and this crimson version from Sézane. And have a scout on secondhand sites for Molly Goddard’s pretty satin trimmed takes. Gant’s herringbone print, currently on sale, has a retro Christmas feel about it without looking as if you’ve stepped out of an alpine lodge.

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