In addition to the one million things we've had on our minds this year, I've also thought a lot about how I speak to my kids about those I disagree with politically, socially, you name it. And I’ve come to realize I’ve painted too stark a picture of good versus bad, wherein everyone fits into one of those two categories. I’ll be the first to admit that I screwed up in this line of thinking, if for nothing else because of what it teaches my kids about disagreeing with others.
I know that’s big picture stuff, but zooming in, many of our kids have missed out on navigating and learning from schoolyard disagreements with their peers this year. Disagreeing — and moving on from it — are key social-emotional skills that our kids need to develop, especially as our world gets more and more polarized.
That’s why I love this piece by reporter Caroline Bologna. She spoke with a variety of experts about how to lay the groundwork for teaching your kids about disagreeing. Not only can it help avoid tantrums, but it also helps them grow as individuals.
I know it’s the last thing any parent wants to hear — here, add more to your plate! — but I truly believe it’s worth working on with your kiddos.
Wishing you luck in this endeavor; I know I need it. And a programming note: this newsletter is taking a little vacation until January 4th, 2021. So until then, be safe, be well and happy holidays to you and yours.
Kate | 
