| This letter is about you, but I thought it might be easier if I explore why Iβm so hard on myself and maybe you can take something from it. Howβs that? I didnβt grow up bathing in an atmosphere of warm encouragement. At home, at school, at church. Just writing that feels disappointing. Because arenβt your home, your teacher, and your religion, supposed to edify you? Sure, there was some encouragement. Especially when I followed the rules. But when I acted out on my own as my authentic self, there was rebuke, discipline, and correction. Mix that with a gentle, introverted, and naΓ―ve personality, and you have the recipe for being hard on yourself. Do you relate? I saw a video the other day of a man being interviewed by Jay Shetty. He was talking about the Law of Attraction. Iβm suspicious of a lot of that stuff. But this guy was saying that it is better to think of it as the Law of Resonance. He said that instead of the Universe giving you what you want, it gives you what you are. Whether you believe this stuff or not is not material to my point. What is material is the next thing he said. He said something to the effectβ¦ if youβre thinking like this: π βWhy donβt I ever have enough money?β
π βWhy is everything so difficult for me?β
π βWhy canβt I seem to get my name out there?β
π βWhy is focusing on my health so hard?β Then your life will be full of frustration, disappointment, and hopelessness. Right? Instead, why not think like this: π βWhy can I always find ways to make more money?
π βWhy do I achieve so much in spite of all the opposition?β
π βWhy do more people know about me now than last year?β
π βWhy am I healthier than ever before?β Here is where we can dig into our determination, courage, and optimism. Right? It hit me how, because Iβm hard on myself, I tend to think the first wayβ¦ why is nothing working? It made me realize I could just as easily sayβ¦ Why, even though I have challenges, are things getting better for me? Do you see what I mean? Do you relate? Or should I ask myself, βWhy is this only happening to Meeeeeeeeee?????β (See what I did there? LOL) | 