To understand sorrow, there must be the understanding of time and thought, and becoming choicelessly aware of all the escapes, the self-restrained self-pity, all the verbalisations, so that the mind, in understanding all this, becomes completely quiet in front of something it has to understand. There is no division between the observer and the thing observed. It is not you as the observer looking at sorrow or feeling sorrow; there is only the state of sorrow, not you in sorrow.