Plus, how to “back out” of a commitment you’ve made.
| AUGUST 24, 2022 • VOL. 20 ISSUE 34 | | | Hi John,
It’s a simple question and yet fraught with potential for misunderstanding: “Hey, do you have a problem with me?”
If you suspect someone is frustrated, irritated, or angry with you, how can you ask them? Today’s Q&A sheds light.
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| | CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS FOR MASTERING DIALOGUE | |
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| | HOW TO SAY "DO YOU HAVE A PROBLEM WITH ME?" | | by Justin Hale |
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| | How do you ask someone “What is your problem with me?” without prompting a blowup or defensive behavior?
Signed,
Suspicious
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| | | | Good for you. You’re aware that our actions and attitudes can influence others, and interested enough in strengthening the relationship that you want to get to the root cause. Often we don’t notice when others have a problem with us, or we do and write it off as “their problem.”
The key to asking this question without prompting a blowup is your delivery, and your delivery can vary by context.
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| | | | | | | | HOW TO REWORK A COMMITMENT YOU'VE MADE | | Made a commitment you can’t keep? Not sure what to do? Here’s how you can rework that commitment without destroying trust. | | | |
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| | | | Oct 3–7 | | Crucial Conversations® for Mastering Dialogue—Certification | | Get certified in Crucial Conversations and teach people in your organization how to: Resolve conflict. Speak up truthfully and tactfully. Reach alignment when stakes are high and opinions vary. Navigate the most important interactions at home and work. | | | |
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| | | | | | Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life. | | | | | |
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