Plus, how to respond when you hear gossip about you.
| SEPTEMBER 7, 2022 • VOL. 20 ISSUE 36 | | | Hi John,
How can you help someone build better habits? And how can you tell them that they need to?
Today’s Q&A explores this very challenge. You’ll also find tips on how to respond to gossip—when it’s about you. |
|
| | | | HELPING YOUR ADULT CHILD BUILD BETTER HABITS | | by Scott Robley |
|
| | How do I help my 23-year-old daughter understand that she has to change her habits to get different outcomes? She recently moved back home. She is always late to work so she can’t hold down a job. She puts off things that I ask her to do around the house. It never changes.
She struggles with ADHD, but I feel she uses this as an excuse to be unproductive. She says she wants to be independent and move out on her own, but she does nothing to make that happen. When I try to teach her basics of work ethic and explain she needs to save money and so forth, she gets defensive.
I want to help her, but I don’t want to hover over her like she is a child. I also fear that without help she will continue to fail and become even more apathetic. What can I do?
Signed,
Honing Habits |
|
| | | | I appreciate your question and your concern. I’m a parent of four children myself, and no one ever told me that the hardest part of parenthood is parenting adults. Anne Frank once wrote about raising children, “Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.”
For your role in advising and helping your daughter find the right path, I’d like to focus on your initial question. Understanding how habits work can be a huge advantage for anyone wanting to bring about positive change in their life. Modifying and applying Frank’s quote here, the forming of your daughter’s character lies in her own “habits.” | | |
|
| | | | | | | | HOW TO RESPOND WHEN YOU HEAR GOSSIP ABOUT YOU | | The challenge you face when hearing gossip is to address it without becoming part of it. Here’s how.. | | | |
|
| | | | OCT 17-21 | | CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS® FOR MASTERING DIALOGUE—CERTIFICATION | | Get certified to teach the timeless skills of Crucial Conversations. Help people in your organization: Resolve conflict. Speak truthfully and tactfully. Reach alignment when stakes are high and opinions vary. Navigate the most important interactions at home and work. | | |
|
| | | | | | It takes two to quarrel, but only one to end it. | | | | | |
| |
|
|
|
