Plus, how to turn down social invitations.
| OCTOBER 5, 2022 • VOL. 20 ISSUE 40 | | | Hi John,
We’ve all heard stories about conflict between neighbors over property lines. But what about when a neighbor’s dog crosses that property line and attacks your dog, and the neighbor won’t talk? Another question that’s part and parcel of Crucial Skills.
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| | CRUCIAL CONVERSATIONS FOR MASTERING DIALOGUE
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| | CAN YOU HAVE A CRUCIAL CONVERSATION WITH SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T WANT TO? | | by Ryan Trimble
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| | My puppy was brutally attacked by our neighbor’s pit bull.
My pup survived, but I soon learned from other neighbors that this was the fifth attack in the neighborhood by this pit bull. I decided to press charges in hopes of improving neighborhood safety.
This did not make the pit bull’s owner happy. The owner, by the way, is mentally ill—he has PTSD from his military service in Afghanistan. He’s also antisocial and unable to detect social cues about appropriate behavior. He carries a handgun on his waist. He will not even look at me.
The court proceedings included a no-contact order, so I haven’t talked with my neighbor. But recently the case was dismissed. I’d now like to talk with him and resolve the tension, but not sure how to start. How do you have a Crucial Conversation with someone who doesn’t want to? And should you if it might be dangerous?
Signed,
Nervous Neighbor
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| | | | I’m reminded of what’s often called “unrequited love.”
I recently finished reading a novel in which a young man is hopelessly in love with a woman who has no interest. Not only is she uninterested, she’s in love with someone else. The man makes every effort to convey his feelings, to treat her kindly, but to no avail. His sincerest efforts cannot earn him attention from the woman of his dreams.
Why should I compare your situation to love? Because in both love and strife it takes two to tango.
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| | | | | | | | HOW TO RESPOND TO INVITATIONS YOU DON'T WANT | | Ever struggled to tell someone you don’t want to hang out? Whether you’re uninterested in the activity, the people themselves, or you fear letting others down, these tips will help. | | | |
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| | | | NOV 8–10 | | The Power of Habit™
| | Join us live online and learn how to: Identify the habits holding you back. Uncover the hidden factors that influence your habits. Acquire new skills and learn new behaviors quickly and efficiently. Turn self-mastery into a lifelong habit. | | | |
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| | | | | | Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new. | | | | | |
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