Its time to speak up π§‘βοΈ Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β Ν β
| | | Hi John! You've probably heard of microaggressions. But have you considered what kind of macrocorrections we'd need to correct them? I'm sick of living in a society that lets microaggressions slide. I'm sure you are too... In this week's email: βCartoon: Casual Bible bashing π§¨
Dad Jokes: Next up to bowl π₯£
Video: Magic and rescue πͺ
Post: Authenticity lessons π€
Original: Celebrating furry best friends πΎ |
|
| | | | | | | | It's Not Me It's God's Word
People use the Bible and their beliefs to hurt you. They don't think they're being cruel. They think they're being righteous. They think they must sanctify you. But I believe some people love hurting you and they've found a holy excuse to do so. Have you experienced this? This cartoon is available for digital download here. |
|
| | | | | | | | My wife asked me today if Iβd seen the dog bowl. I said no I didnβt know he could. |
|
| | | | | | One of the biggest lessons many of us have to learn when we deconstruct our beliefs and maybe even leave the church is learning how to become independent, autonomous, and self-determining. This week I posted a TikTok video about how we have to give up the magical thinking of waiting for someone or something to rescue us. We have to learn to assume our personal agency. Watch the video here. |
|
| | | | | | This week I asked you a question: What lessons have you learned about authenticity that you wish you knew before? Here are a few of the responses: Steve said, "Authenticity permits discretion. We can be authentic and still limit what we share. Limiting is not lying." Nicole said, "Itβs so much easier to be at peace in the present moment when you are being your authentic self. Unhappiness with my environment or other people was a direct reflection of me not living authentically." And Mara said, "Authenticity can be contagious when someone is brave enough to go first." Your responses were heartfelt. Thank you for sharing your experiences with our community. Click here to read more responses. Maybe you'll want to add yours too. |
|
| | | | | | A couple of weeks ago, I shared an original painting called No Goodbye is Good Enough. It's a painting dedicated to a dog that passed away. Because when you lose your furry best friend, no goodbye can ever be good enough. It was very popular so I made more, each one unique and original. This is No Goodbye is Good Enough #3. |
|
| | | | MICROAGGRESSIONS DESERVE MACROCORRECTIONS |
|
| | This is about microaggressions. Microaggressions are insults against a certain group of people that come off as a joke or even a compliment. Often theyβre not even thought aboutβ¦ the aggressor sometimes doesnβt even know what theyβre doing. Theyβre automatic comments that are often made in passing. Here are some examples: βYou donβt seem gay, though!β βYouβre the whitest black person I know!β βFigures your family is rich, being Jews.β βYouβre actually pretty cool for a Christian.β βYou look like youβre from China.β βHave you gained/lost weight?β I recently read an article from years ago that talks about microaggressions and how the accumulation of them in the daily life of the ones receiving them is exhausting. Thereβs a gay couple I know. Let's call them Josh and Steven. Josh grew up in an affirming home, Steven didnβt. Josh notices every microaggression spoken against Steven. But Steven is just happy to get through the day without getting spit on. Itβs exhausting. Josh doesnβt put up with them. Steven endures them. This has been a huge learning curve for me. Now knowing just how devastating microaggressions really are, Iβve decided to offer macrocorrections when I hear them. If many microaggressions are preconscious or unconscious, then why not macrocorrect? But if they did mean it as an insult then theyβll get a macrocorrect for sure. I figured it was time to stop playing around. So, if someone says a microaggression in my comments section, Iβll offer a correction. Hereβs an example: βI love your cartoon because it shows that God will forgive gays just like he will forgive rapists!β Iβll say, βAre you aware that you compared gay people to rapists. Being gay is not a sin. It is not wrong!β This will do one of a few things: 1. They will silently go away. 2. Theyβll defend themselves that they indeed meant that. In which case I will delete them. 3. They will say, βOh no I didnβt mean that. Thanks for pointing that out. I need to be more careful!β Or... telling someone that what they just said was racist. The same responses are possible. Hopefully, they are willing to learn and change. Doing that face-to-face can be harder. But Iβm learning how to do it. All the same responses as above are possibilities. But if we want to help create a loving world, it means challenging aggression against others. |
|
| | | | | | Iβm reading a book about Zen written by a famous Zen master. She is very wise. Hereβs a quote about enlightenment or insight: βAll we can do is to prepare the necessary conditions. We need to be sure that the soil is well prepared, rich and loose and fertile, so that if the seed falls, it will spring forth rapidly. The studentβs job is not to be hunting for outcomes, but to be preparing the way. As the Bible says, βPrepare ye the way of the Lord.β That is our workβ. Charlotte Joko Beck, Nothing Special: Living Zen. |
|
| | | | | | I hope this mail has inspired you to take action next time someone is using microaggressions. Especially if you are in a position of power. You can be an ally. You can be a supporter. You can help someone see that there's a kinder way to live. And you can help someone see that they deserve to be treated more kindly. Say something. Always say something. Much love, my friends! David P.S. This week I posted the 5 Stages of Deconstruction on my YouTube channel. The first stage is denial. Watch it here.
|
|
| | |
|
| | | | | Copyright Β© 2021 nakedpastor, All rights reserved. No longer want to receive these emails? Unsubscribe.
NakedPastor Gondola Point Road [email protected] Quispamsis, NB E2E 1H6 |
|
| | | | |
|
|
|
|
