Acknowledging Our Pain | by Madisyn Taylor Some people seem called to help others, often from very early on in their childhoods, responding to the needs of family members, strangers, or animals with a selflessness that is impressive. Often, these people appear to have very few needs of their own, and the focus of their lives is on rescuing, helping, and healing others. While there are a few people who are truly able to sustain this completely giving lifestyle, the vast majority has needs that lie beneath the surface, unmet and often unseen. In these cases, their motivation to help others may be an extension of a deep desire to heal a wounded part of themselves that is starving for the kind of love and attention they dole out to those around them on a daily basis. For any number of reasons, they are unable to give themselves the love they need and so they give it to others. This does not mean that they are not meant to be helping others, but it does mean that they would do well to turn some of that helping energy within. One problem with the rescuer model is that the individual can get stuck in the role, always living in crisis mode at the expense of inner peace and personal growth. Until the person resolves their own inner dramas, they play them out in their relationships with others, drawn to those who need them and often unable to acknowledge their own needs or get them met. In the worst-case scenario, they enable the other person's dilemma by not knowing when to stop playing the rescuer and allow the person to figure it out on their own. However, if the rescuer finds the strength to turn within and face the needy aspects of their own psyche, he or she can become a model of empowerment and a true source of healing in the world. Some signs that you or someone you love may need to rescue the rescuer within are inner burnout from overgiving; underlying resentment; an inability to admit to having needs of one's own; and an unwillingness to be vulnerable. Help comes when we allow ourselves to admit we need it, acknowledging our humanity and our wholeness by acknowledging our pain. The understanding we gain in the process will naturally inform and inspire our ability to help those in need to do the same. | DailyOM Course Spotlight by Sadie Nardini If you are new to yoga, or it's been a while since you practiced regularly, you may be experiencing some level of fatigue, excess bloating and weight gain, or a plateau in your fitness or personal growth. In order to increase your strength, build stamina and experience the weightless results you seek, you must ask more of your muscles, mind, and emotions. However, it's not simply doing more that's the answer, but what kind of more you choose. If you work out smarter, you don't need to work out longer--AND you'll boost your mind, body and energy level to a whole new level of awesome! The yoga techniques in this program will help you shock and awe your muscles, fat-burning hormones, and triggers lean muscle-building in just a few minutes, to the same extent as if you've worked out for hours! In this course from Sadie Nardini, one of the world's most well-known yoga, healthy living and authenticity trainers, you will be guided through 14 days of exciting, empowering yoga practice, with simple, but super-effective action steps, to help you look and feel amazing in just two weeks. Top 10 DailyOM Courses 1. Fit and Fierce Over 40 2. Protect Yourself from Control Dramas 3. A Year to Clear What is Holding You Back! 4. A Year to Get Rich with Purpose 5. Make Yourself a Money Magnet 6. 21 Days to Phenomenal Abdominals 7. Break the Grip of Past Lovers 8. 21 Day Beginner Yoga 9. Reinventing The Body, Resurrecting the Soul 10. Find True Love in 27 Days
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